Welcome to Loving Relationships ~ Online Playshop!

Dive into to the art of enjoying loving relationships
with yourself, your family, and everyone else in your life

It’s So Exciting to Have You Join Us!

Did you catch the “Loving Relationships” word-play? Loving Relationships has 2 significant meanings: Being more loving in relationships and loving to be in relationships.

“To become a master of love, You have to practice love. The art of relationship is also a whole mastery, and the only way to reach mastery is with practice.”

We are thrilled to share all the tips and tools we have gathered over the years on our journey, both as individuals and as a new paradigm couples and family, with you. Together we will build a strong foundation of unconditional love on which you can build any relationship, with anybody in your life! Remember; if we can do it, so can you!!

Sandra, Kirk, Bridget & Patrick

Playshop “Loving Relationships” Presented In – 4 Modules

  1. Loving Me Click here
  2. Loving Others Click here
  3. Loving Values Click here
  4. Loving Communication Click here


The 5 modules: You can be on the live call each week of the 5 week Playshop. If you are unable to join us on the live call, you can listen to the recordings and take a week on each module and go at the pace we did or go at whatever pace works the best for you. Start with the 1st module and go through each of the activities listed in the module and then move to the next module. Continue until you’ve completed all 5 modules. Each Module has several activities as described below.

Activities for Each of the 4 Modules

  • Join us on the live call or listen to the recorded Group Call. In the calls Sandra and Kirk cover the sessions topics and the group members share their ideas and ask questions. This makes makes the calls dynamic, motivating, and fun to listen to
  • Do the exercises suggested in the Calls
  • Listen to the different audio recordings
  • Watch the relevant movies or read the suggested material for the module
  • Share your thoughts and questions on the group’s “Loving Relationships” Facebook Page.
  • Interact with other group members through your posts. If you feel drawn to specific members, connect by messaging them. Members learn from each other, so they will be supportive and happy to help. It is great to be friends with those of like-hearts.
  • Message Contact Sandra or Kirk through Facebook if you have any questions that come up.
  • Read through the modules written material.
  • Approach Relationships in a loving way and Watch Yourself Transform!

“We all had many breakthroughs and awakenings, and so will you, if you give yourself over to the concepts and integrate them into your life.”

Facebook Group

Interact with other members on our “Loving Relationships” Playshop Facebook Group. All of the members of the Facebook Group have participated in the “Loving Relationships” Playshops, so you can interact, ask questions with confidence and feel safe.


Can you write something about the teachings of the Ra beings (Law of One) and other Ascended Masters (like Jesus) and how we can use the tools that mankind has received from the Essasani (future timeline civilization) to implement the Ascended Master’s message (teaching/learning) into our daily life…


Like I mentioned yesterday, I feel most people will understand the connection and message of the Ascended Masters. This in combination with your knowledge and understanding of the Ra Material and the Essasani tools will be a powerful bridge to practice the message of Unconditional love and Forgiveness.

Kirk can you write something about the correlation between the densities and the colors of the chakras??7-chakras




Ground Yourself with Sandra’s Guided Meditation

Grounding will allow you to tap into the positive, supportive, and ever-flowing stream Mother Earth’s energy. With this connection you won’t feel depleted and you’ll have more energy to share with other people, which will enhance all your relationships. You are an infinite being with unlimited power. Believe it! It will be helpful to watch do the meditation before you join the live calls or listen to the weekly recordings.

Module 4 Group Call - "Loving Values"

by Sandra, Kirk, Bridget, Patrick and All Group Members | Loving Relationships Playshop

Module 4 – Loving Values

Group Call Highlights

  • Kirk shares about letting go of stress and worry…TRUST that you will know, what you need to know, when you need to know it! And only take action when guided to do so!
  • Sandra shares about her experience with trusting synchronicity and tuning in to Higher guidance. She found out the hard way that the fear of change is the greatest trap of all. Sandra became a master in new beginnings and learned to embrace change as part of this life’s journey.
  • Sandra & Kirk talk about the importance of practicing the tools and concept
  • To save the Call for listening to it later on your music player or mobile device click this Link to open WAV Version of Call 3 and then click File | Save As to download and save it.

Laws of Existence

  1. You Exist
  2. The One is the All and the All are the One
  3. What You Put out You Get Back
  4. Everything Changes
  5. Everything is Here and Now


Theory_of_EverythingThe Theory of Everything Trailer

In the 1960s, Cambridge University student and future physicist Stephen Hawking (Eddie Redmayne) falls in love with fellow collegian Jane Wilde (Felicity Jones). At 21, Hawking learns that he has motor neuron disease. Despite this — and with Jane at his side — he begins an ambitious study of time, of which he has very little left, according to his doctor. He and Jane defy terrible odds and break new ground in the fields of medicine and science, achieving more than either could hope to imagine.

Yes man movie posterYes Man Trailer

Carl Allen (Jim Carrey) is stuck in a rut with his negative ways. Then he goes to a self-help seminar and learns to unleash the power of yes. Living in the affirmative leads him to all sorts of amazing and transforming experiences; he gets a job promotion, and even finds a new romance. But Carl finds that too much of anything, even positive thinking, is not necessarily a good thing.

50 first dates poster50 First Dates Trailer

Playboy vet Henry sets his heart on romancing Lucy, but she has short-term memory loss; she can’t remember anything that happened the day before. So every morning, Henry has to woo her again. Her friends and family are very protective, and Henry must convince them that he’s in it for love.


Reading Material

eckharttollenewearthA New Earth – by Eckhart Tolle

Eckhart Tolle’s “A New Earth” describes in detail how our current ego-based state of consciousness operates. He educates us about the Pain-body and the Ego inside of us. Then gently, and in very practical terms, he leads us into a new consciousness. We will come to experience who we truly are—which is something infinitely greater than anything we currently think we are—and learn to live and breathe freely. It’s an opportunity to create a new, saner, more loving world, that involves a radical inner leap from the current egoic consciousness to an entirely new one.

The Power of NowThe Power of Now – by Eckhart Tolle

The Power of Now: A Guide to Spiritual Enlightenment is a book by Eckhart Tolle. The book is intended to be a self-help guide for day-to-day living and stresses the importance of living in the present moment and avoiding thoughts of the past or future.


ToolsLoving Tools

To master the Art of Loving Life you need the right set of tools! During this online playshop you have learned a whole new set of tools to assist and support you in all areas of your life, the key is to keep on practicing these tools until they become your second nature.

Loving Life

Personal Freedom means freedom from fear, illusions, and the fear based beliefs in the mind. In essence it means to win the war over the beliefs in the mind. It is with Personal Freedom that we are free of the human condition of emotional suffering and we love life and experience it to be as loving.  It is a state that is simply described as living your life with unconditional love, gratitude, and respect, for your self, and for others.

Loving Me, Loving Feelings, Loving Communication, Loving Change!! Can you feel how powerful these affirmations are? These simple concepts lead to Loving Life!!! Loving life in all it’s beauty in a more loving way…


Let go of the need to change anybody else

It’s not your job to change anybody else…just accepting this fact in your relations with other humans is very important. You cannot change other people. You love them the way they are or you don’t. You accept them the way they are or you don’t. To try to change them to fit what you want them to be is like trying to change a dog for a cat, or a cat for a horse. That is a fact. They are what they are; you are what you are. You dance or you don’t dance. You need to be completely honest with yourself- to say what you want, and see if you are willing to dance or not. You must understand this point, because it is very important. When you truly understand, you are likely to see what is true about others, and not just what you want to see.


Loving Change

This module is all about making peace with Change.  We encourage you to let go of the need to control outer circumstances and fine-tune the relationship with your Higher Self. This will eliminate stress, anxiety, excessive fear and open you up to receiving the directions and guidance from your Higher Self.


feel that thing you don't want to feel

Module 1 Group Call - "Loving Me"

by Sandra, Kirk, Bridget, Patrick and All Group Members | Loving Relationships Playshop

Module 1 – Loving Me

Group Call Highlights

  • Sandra shares her experience and personal evolution in which she discovered the importance every individual being fully grounded in their own energy and how being 100% yourself will automatically attract people of like-minded frequency into your life.
  • Kirk Shares about FREQUENCY
  • Sandra & Kirk talk about the importance of the basic concepts and tools that will be of great value in all of your relationships
  • To save the Call so you can listen to it later on your music player or mobile device click this Link to open the MP3 Version of Call 1 and then click File | Save As to download and save it.

“Remember, the relationship between YOU and YOU is very powerful, it influences your relationship with everyone and everything.”


Peaceful WarriorPeaceful Warrior Trailer

Peaceful Warrior’s massage is about the miracles that being being your true self brings. Dan Millman (Scott Mechlowicz) is a gifted athlete whose desire for success drives everything he does. When a mysterious stranger (Nick Nolte) opens Dan’s eyes to a new vision of strength and understanding, the Olympic hopeful finds that he still has much to learn and more sacrifices to make. Way of the Peaceful Warrior – Book is even better than the movie.

Heal your life dvdYou Can Heal Your Life: The Movie by Louise Hay Trailer

You meet the woman who wakes up every day and proclaims her love for everyone and everything in her path, the woman who popularized affirmations. “This movie is the story of my life, my teachings and how I’ve applied the principles of my teachings to my own life,” Louise explains. “I’ve made enormous changes in my own life that I had no idea would be possible.”


Reading Material

The law of oneThe Law of One – The RA Material

The books were channeled by Carla Rueckert and assisted by Don Elkins, and Jim McCarty between 1981 and 1984. To read it free online, Click here. The books (there are five) can be purchased from L/L Research’s online store or freely downloaded from their library.

“I am Ra. The Law of One, though beyond the limitations of name, may be approximated by stating that all things are one, that there is no polarity, no right or wrong, no disharmony, but only identity. All is one, and that one is love/light, light/love, the Infinite Creator.”

Mastery of LoveThe Mastery of Love – by Don Miguel Ruiz

In The Mastery of Love, don Miguel Ruiz illuminates the fear-based beliefs and assumptions that undermine love and lead to suffering and drama in our relationships. Using insightful stories to bring his message to life, Ruiz shows us how to heal our emotional wounds, recover the freedom and joy that are our birthright, and restore the spirit of playfulness that is vital to loving relationships.

Byron Katie bookI need your Love, is that true? by Byron Katie

Who would you be without your story?

The Work of Byron Katie is a way of identifying and questioning the thoughts that cause all the anger, fear, depression, addiction, and violence in the world. Experience the happiness of undoing those thoughts through The Work, an allow your mind to return to its true, awakened, peaceful, creative nature.
Click here to access the audio book: http://www.audiobooks.com/audiobook/i-need-your-love-is-that-true/159562

The Importance of Being Yourself

Just being yourself is one of the biggest fear of humans. We have learned to live our life trying to satisfy other people’s demands. We have learned to live by other people’s points of view because of the fear of not being accepted and of not being good enough for someone else.

You need to be honest with yourself, and honest with everyone else. Project what you feel, how you really are, and don’t pretend to be what you are not. It’s as if you are in a market: You are going to sell yourself, and you are also going to buy. In order to buy, you want to see the quality of what you are going to get. But in order to sell, you need to show others what you are. When you buy something you don’t need, it ends up in the garage. It’s the same in a relationship.

Be a Millionaire in love

Eliminate Control & Manipulation in all Relationships

Imagine having an abundance of love in your heart. You have love not just for yourself, but for the whole world. You love so much that you don’t need anyone’s love. You share your love without condition! Imagine You are this millionaire in love, and someone knocks on your door and says, “Hey, I have love for you here. You can have my love, if you just do whatever I want you to do.” When you are full of love, when there is an abundance, what is going to be your reaction? You will laugh and say, “Thank you, but I don’t need your love. I have the same love here in my heart, even bigger and better, and I share my love without condition.”

Guided Mirror-Play Exercise

The one piece of equipment you need is a mirror. Any mirror will do. Make sure you give it a good polish before you begin. You are about to meet the most important person in your life. Remember, the relationship between YOU and YOU is very powerful, it influences your relationship with everyone and everything.

This exercise is inspired by the teachings of Louise Hay.

Unconditional LoveUnconditional Love Article

Be “in” love with everyone, the entire world, the multiverse, and everything that is. Love is a state of being. Love is unconditional. Love is complete self-worth and creativity. Love is not outside of you. Love is what you are. You can’t get love from another person. Another person can reflect love to you, but in that case it is still your own love that you are experiencing. See more… Link to full “Unconditional Love” article


Letter to myself

When you receive this letter by mail, read it and let the words sink in. Feel the compassion from the perspective of your Higher Self.

Exercise: A letter from your Higher Self

You can imagine your Higher Self as a friend who is unconditionally wise, loving and compassionate. Imagine that this friend can see all your strengths and weaknesses, including wonderful qualities you don’t always recognize in yourself.  This friend understands the limits of human nature, and is kind, accepting, and forgiving.

Now write a letter of encouragement to yourself from the perspective of this imaginary friend (your Higher Self). Remember that your Higher Self can see all the wonderful qualities you have inside of you and knows you have unlimited potential to life your highest joy in life.

What would this friend say to you from the perspective of unlimited compassion and unwavering faith? And if you think this friend would suggest possible changes you should make, how might these suggestions embody feelings of trust, care, encouragement, and support?

Once you’re finished, put this letter in a sealed envelope with a stamp. Ask a friend or family member to write your name and address on the envelope and take good care of it. Ask them to send you the envelope in about 1 or 2 months from now.


Module 2 Group Call - "Loving Others"

by Sandra, Kirk, Bridget, Patrick and All Group Members | Loving Relationships Playshop

Module 2 – Loving Others

Group Call Highlights

  • Sandra shares her experience and personal evolution in which she discovered the importance every individual being fully grounded in their own energy and how being 100% yourself will automatically attract people of like-minded frequency into your life.
  • Kirk Shares about maintaining your high vibration
    Sandra & Kirk talk about the importance of the basic concepts and tools that will be of great value in all of your relationships
  • To save the Call so you can listen to it later on your music player or mobile device click this Link to open the MP3 Version of Call 1 and then click File | Save As to download and save it.


Power-of-the-HeartThe Power of the Heart – Trailer
This unparalleled and life-changing film about the astonishing power and intelligence of your heart. Featuring some of the most inspiring and influential icons of our age including Paulo Coelho, Maya Angelou, Deepak Chopra, Isabel Allende, and Eckhart Tolle, ‘THE POWER OF THE HEART’ – which ties into a book of the same name – is an experience that will lead you to uncover… and rediscover… the treasure in your chest.

Reading Material

The Prophet Book CoverThe Prophet – By Kahlil Gibran

The book by the prophet, Almustafa, is divided into chapters dealing with love, marriage, children, giving, , work, joy and sorrow, laws, freedom, reason and passion, self-knowledge, teaching, friendship, pleasure, beauty, etc… Link to The Prophet on Amazon.

Oneness of USOneness of Us: Who Am I?, Relationships, Wealth – by Kirk Nielsen

With the aid of his spiritual guide Nostradamus and his higher self, Kirk wrote 3 books answering life’s most challenging questions: Who AM I, What is the purpose of Relationships, and What is Wealth? The answers are clear and compelling. Thebooks help raise your vibration and live life in a new and happier way. Link to Kirk’s Books on Amazon.

You are Responsible for the Energy You Bring Into the Relationship

In every relationship there are two people. One is you, and the other is your son, your daughter, your father, your mother, your friend, your partner. Of those 2 people, you are 100% responsible for the energy you bring into the specific relationship.
If you know that you are only responsible for your part of the relationship, you can easily control your own frequency. It is not up to us to control the other person’s frequency. If we respect and accept the choices of the other person, we allow them to take full responsibility too! (add VIDEO by Sandra)


But it’s always going to begin with you…
When we go into a relationship of any kind, it is because we want to share, we want to enjoy, we want to have fun and be happy. Perhaps you cannot control what is going to happen around you, but you can control your own reactions. It’s your reactions that make you happy or unhappy and they are the key to having a wonderful life.
Powerful being



Don’t forget to add some content about COMPATIBILITY and add it to the live call topics

we talked about “how to bridge” the parts that are less or perhaps not compatible by using percentages and levels of importance!
Example: Kirk likes to choose the movie 90% of the time, Sandra is okay with choosing 10% of the time

Compatibility and the art of making bridges

Relationships and Compatibility


Learn to Attract what you Desire!

According to the Law of Attraction you attract either what you are, your level of energy or you attract whatever you profoundly judge and resist in others.

These 2 powerful mirrors are designed to give you insights, so you can expand, let go of limiting beliefs and gravitate towards a more conscious and loving relationship with yourself and others.

Module 3 Group Call - "Loving Communication"

by Sandra, Kirk, Bridget, Patrick and All Group Members | Loving Relationships Playshop

Module 3 – Loving Communication

Group Call Highlights

  • Sandra and Kirk share their experiences about loving Communication
  • Sandra talks about triggers and how to remain open-hearted even when the situation is challenging!
  • Kirk explains which tools you can apply to maintain your High frequency
  • To save the Call so you can listen to it later on your music player or mobile device click this Link to open the WAV file of Call 2 and then click File | Save As to download and save it.

Loving communicationProcess: How do you react when you are triggered?

Ask yourself these questions:

  • What do I want to create?
  • How can I see through the eyes of love?
  • What would love and compassion do?
  • Would I really like to be happy, or hold onto my perspective that is causing me pain?


The Shift movie posterThe Shift – by Wayne Dyer Trailer

A compelling portrait of three modern lives in need of new direction and new meaning. Wayne Dyer explores the spiritual journey in the second half of life when we long to find the purpose that is our unique contribution to the world. The powerful shift from the ego constructs we are taught early in life by parents and society—which promote an emphasis on achievement and accumulation—are shown in contrast to a life of meaning, focused on serving and giving back. Stream for $10 from Hay House Website.

The Celestine ProphecyThe Celestine Prophecy Trailer

This movie has a great scene where the military officers can’t see them because they are vibrating at a higher frequency. In another scene the protagonist uses manipulative energy while he is talking and is unable to connect with a women he in interested in. The plot has John Woodson (Matthew Settle) losing his high-school teaching job and reaching a crossroads in his life. Fate seems to steer him toward a trip to Peru, where he becomes involved in the search for the missing ninth scroll to a set of eight ancient manuscripts that are rumored to reveal the future of mankind.


Reading Material

The Four AgreementsThe Four Agreements – by Don Miguel Ruiz

The Four Agreements reveals the source of self-limiting beliefs that rob people of joy and create needless suffering. Based on ancient Toltec wisdom, the Four Agreements — be impeccable with your word, don’t take anything personally, don’t make assumptions, always do your best — offer a powerful code of conduct that can rapidly transform life into a new experience of freedom, love, and true happiness.

TalkingKey to Healthy Communication

The key to healthy communication, is to focus on the communication that is happening internally. The questions then become:

  • Am I aware of my triggers or am I resisting or pushing them away?
  • Am I taking FULL responsibility for my feelings or am I attached to someone else making it all better for me?
  • How is my inner communication? Is there balance or conflict within myself?

Side by side communicationHealthy Communication Skills

  • Hold space and witness without judgement
  • Share how you feel without going into story
  • Ask for what you need rather than making the other wrong
  • Be vulnerable rather than having your guard up
  • Use a quiet, controlled, respectful voice and tone
  • Don’t take jabs at each other or shame and blame one another
  • Be present rather than being stuck in the past
  • Don’t interrupt and practice active listening
  • Don’t withdraw or give each other the silent treatment
  • Sit close while you are talking and bring in touch

From this perspective, resolving conflict in all your relationships and life in general, becomes less about who is doing what and more about you becoming the keeper of your own frequency.



Take a good look at all self-limiting beliefs that rob you of joy and create needless suffering. By dropping those beliefs you rapidly transform your life into a new experience of freedom, true happiness, and love.

triggeringWhat are Triggers

When someone says something that upsets us, our first response is usually to become angry with that person. But more often than not, our emotional reaction is based on our own needs, our own fears, and our own unresolved issues. It seems as though the other person is causing us to feel annoyed or hurt, but they are usually triggering a memory or a feeling from our own past and that’s why it hurts. Our response to that trigger is our response to the past. Instead of reacting to pain from the past as if we were still children, we can choose to respond to the present as adults.

How do you know if you are responding to the present or the past? Think about a situation in which you got upset with someone. Perhaps you felt irritated when you talked to your mother on the phone or you got into an argument with your children. What did they say that first got your heart pumping or your hands clenched into fists? Maybe you felt judgement from your mother or your partner made suggestions for improvement rather than listening to you. Relationships involve two people and each of us is responsible for our own behaviour. It can be very frustrating trying to talk to someone who is critical, blaming, defensive or ignoring our needs. But recognising the words, attitudes or expressions that trigger your emotional response can improve your relationships as well as heal your own hurt feelings.

In life you choose your friends and to some degree you choose the people you work with. In this setting you can somewhat control the extent of the triggers. The real challenge lies in our closest relationships with your intimate partner, your family, parents, siblings and/or children

Tips for loving communication

The four agreementsIn any kind of relationship we can make the assumption that others know what we think, and we don’t have to say what we want. They are going to do what we want because they know us so well. If they don’t do what we want, what we assume they should do, we feel hurt and think, “How could you do that? You should know.” Again, we make the assumption that the other person knows what we want.

Find the courage to ask questions and to express what you really want. Communicate with others as clearly as you can to avoid misunderstandings, sadness and drama.

Previously we discussed “Triggers” and look at our feelings as messages from the subconscious… with this new insight you can practice a more loving communication in which you recognize triggers much quicker and are able to drop them in a heartbeat!

healthy communicationHealthy Communication Article

The purpose of communication is to create a reflection that shows you what needs to be understood to be more of who you are. Communing with and relating to others mirrors back to you what you are putting out. The higher the frequency you put out the clearer and more harmonious the reflection coming back will be. The more aware you are of what you are putting out and what is coming back the more you and the others involved will benefit. See more… Link to full “Communication” article

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Dive even deeper into loving relationships and join us on our

Mayan Riviera Mexico Caribbean Adventure

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8 Days, All Inclusive in Playa Del Carmen, Mexico
Jan 14–21, 2017   Theme – “Loving Relationships”
With Sandra RolusKirk NielsenBridget Nielsen, Patrick Haize

Those participating in the “Loving Relationships Playshop” can deduct the price of the Playshop from the price of the Adventure.